Portland Dating Service | 5 Warning Signs He’s Using You

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You met a great guy that you’re absolutely crazy about.  You’ve been seeing each other for a little while now.  You’ve been on a couple of dates and are getting along perfectly.  One thing led to another and you started sleeping together on a regular basis.  Things are going great, and you want to take your relationship to the next level.  However, he’s not ready to do that just yet.  While he doesn’t say he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, he’s definitely not doing anything to show you that he’s serious either.  You’re hopeful and keep things going as they are until one day you wake up and realize he’s gone.  You sit there alone in your room and start to think “Oh my gosh! He’s using me for sex.”  Well, it’s true, he might be.  Let our Portland dating service show you five telltale warning signs he’s using you for sex and has no intentions of dating you.

1. He doesn’t want to be let in.

He hasn’t made any efforts to let you in his life, so you think all he needs is a little push in the right direction.  You invite him to your friend’s get together, but he denies the invitation.  You invite him to a work function, but he tells you he’s busy.  He doesn’t make any effort to meet your friends and family because you’re only temporary to him.  By keeping his distance, he’s keeping things uncomplicated and avoiding hurting your feelings.

2. Everything includes drinking.

You don’t ever just have a normal night.  You’re either getting together and drinking or never getting together at all.  Once the two of you get a little tipsy, you make your way to the bedroom and do the deed.  You always have fun when you’re with him because that’s exactly what he sees you as, a fun time.  He’s not planning on settling down with you.  Oh, no, this guy’s just having a good time.

3. He never opens up to you.

Time and time again you ask him about his day, maybe about his past and even his future, but he never gives you anything.  You try endlessly to get to know him a little more but can’t get anywhere.  Your conversations revolve around pointless things.  He doesn’t want to get to know you or ask you questions about anything in your life.  He doesn’t want to be vulnerable by letting you know things about his life.  He avoids making an emotional connection with you by keeping his walls up.

4. His personal life is kept private.

Even though you’ve known him for a few months, you’ve never met his friends or family.  You don’t push the subject because you think you need to give it a little more time.  If he has plans with his friends, he says he’ll meet you later.  Why?  Because he wants to make sure the night ends with him getting lucky.  He wants to have his cake and eat it too (AKA reaping the benefits of a relationship without a commitment).  If this guy refuses to let you in, you need to let him go.

5. Every time you hang out, it turns to sex.

From the first time you met and spent time alone together you’ve always had sex.  You’ve never been with him and not had sex.  If you go on a date, you already know you’ll be sleeping together afterwards.  It’s almost like there’s an unwritten rule that it’s going to happen.  You feel obligated to sleep with him.  There isn’t just movie and cuddling sessions because it’s always all about the sex.  He’s there for one reason and one reason only: to sleep with you.

How many of these warning signs do you see in the guy you’re dating?  Is he just using you for a good time?  If so, you know what you need to do next.

Are you tired of dating men who are only after you for one thing?  Then it’s time you let one of our expert matchmakers introduce you to relationship-minded men in Portland who are serious about finding love and settling down with a great catch like yourself.  To reserve your FREE (90-minute) matchmaking consultation, simply fill out the confidential form at the top of the page today!