Gentlemen reading this, our Portland matchmakers think it’s great that you’re excited about this new woman, and it’s wonderful that you want to get to know her well, but on your quest to find love you might be doing things that are sabotaging your chances with the ladies.
We all enjoy watching Lifetime movies and funny dating shows, such as ‘To Catch a Predator,’ but you don’t want to be living them. What we mean here is that no woman wants to feel like she has a stalker. You might be doing certain things you think are romantic, but you may be coming off as too aggressive, creepy, or even scary.
The only thing women want too strong is their coffee. When it comes to dating, women appreciate a man who is a little more relaxed and go with the flow. Today, our Portland matchmakers will show you the things men do to come on too strong and push women away. Take note and make sure you’re not guilty of any of these things in your own dating life.
The Moves Men Make That Are Too Strong
Do not worry, it is never too late to change your approach. Today, our Portland matchmakers will show you some things you could be doing that are driving all the singles ladies away.
- Calling Her Excessively
No one likes to feel the way they felt when they were young and their parents were constantly checking up on them. If you want to turn a woman off quickly, then one of the best ways to do it is by calling her excessively.
It is great to let her know you’re thinking about her, but calling her every hour on the hour is going to scare her away and make you look creepy.
- Excessive Texting
Just like she doesn’t want to hear her phone ring every hour, she doesn’t want to hear it beep either. You need to let your relationship build up slowly, which means you cannot bombard her with text messages all day, especially not if you’re just talking about nonsense. Besides, she probably has a full-time job that requires her undivided attention, so please, slow down. We know you don’t want to scare this woman away.
- Sending Her a Lot of Pictures
Selfies are the newest craze in today’s world, and it’s pretty obvious that people exchange them, but tread lightly here. Now, we’re not saying you can’t send her a selfie once in a while, but sending too many of them might make you look conceited.
- Giving Too Many Compliments
It’s no secret that women love hearing how beautiful they are or how sexy men find them, but if you start telling her she is gorgeous every day, you’re going to sound like a broken record, and more importantly, it’s going to sound insincere. A well-placed compliment here and there works better than a billion compliments throughout the day.
- Wanting to Be with Her All the Time
We already told you that you need to move things slowly; let the relationship grow at its own pace. Just like a plant needs room to grow, your relationship needs the same. It is obvious that when you like a woman you want to be with her all the time; however, doing that will suffocate her.
Don’t try to spend all your free time with her. Instead, our Portland matchmakers encourage you to do the things you always did before you met her. Trust us, it is a turn on when a man has a life and interests of his own. So hit the gym, go golfing, and don’t be afraid to let her know you’re going out with the guys after work.
- Getting Too Serious Too Quickly
Sure, it is almost every woman’s dream to get married, but that doesn’t mean you need to talk about it on your fifth date. The last thing you want to do is scare her away by coming on too strong with the intense subject of marriage.
- Showing Up without Being Invited
This one will certainly make you look like a stalker. If you start showing up at her place of employment, apartment, or places she frequents, she is going to think that’s exactly what you are—and no woman wants a stalker.
It is romantic to bring her a surprise once in a while, but make sure that she doesn’t confuse your romantic surprises as annoying ones. Surprising her by showing up when she hasn’t made plans with you may make her think there is something wrong with you. There is a fine line between being romantic and being over the top or creepy.
If you’ve ever had a friend tell you how much they love someone after only a few days of dating, then think back to how you felt when they told you this. You probably thought they were crazy and that they were moving too quickly, right? You probably told them to calm down a little and let the relationship go at its own speed—the same rule needs to apply to you.
You don’t want to be known as the crazy stalker or creepy guy who won’t leave her alone. You don’t want to be the one she goes, “ughh,” to when she sees your name on her cell phone screen. Remember that “ughh” is not attractive and definitely won’t put you in the relationship category. Back off a little and give her space to breathe.
Here at Portland Singles Dating Service, we don’t want you to mess up a great opportunity with an amazing woman by coming off as too aggressive. Remember that good things in life take time and that Rome was not built in a day. Your relationship will definitely take time to grow and you have to be patient. If you’re too eager or force things on her, she’s going to turn you away.
If you’re single in Portland and looking to find quality dates, contact one of our professional matchmakers today to get started. Our personal matchmakers not only provide you with hand-selected dates, but we also provide you with all the dating support and guidance you need along the way. To set up a FREE matchmaking consultation with our Portland matchmakers, simply fill out the private questionnaire at the top of our webpage to get started!